The whole Sansa is ~too passive bullshit that showed up in FMM in annoying on many levels but the thing that bugged me most was the assertion that she “just” survives her situation. How fucking belittling. “just surviving” in an awful oppressive system, just surviving constant physical and mental abuse and the constant threat of sexual violence is huge much less with your spirit intact like Sansa manages. It doesn’t mean you have to like her or vote for her, I really don’t care, but I finally figured out what bugged me about that thread, beyond the whole bullshit Sansa vs. Arya dichotomy that rests on the fact that the only right way to be a girl is to pick up a sword. Just surviving in an oppressive system or in an abusive situation is sometimes all a person can do, it is huge, huge, huge, always.